Why Resolutions And Goals May Be Setting You Up To Fail

Why Resolutions And Goals May Be Setting You Up To Fail

January is here and New Year's resolutions are being made.

Did you make a New Year's resolution this year?

New Year's Resolution: “A promise to yourself or decision to do something, especially to improve one’s behavior or lifestyle in some way, during the year ahead.”

It’s been a long time since I have made a New Year's resolution, which was always about my weight and how much I was going to lose. Since being on a healthy lifestyle journey, diets are a thing if the past. The freedom I feel, because of the choices I am making with an ease I never knew before, is priceless and life changing.

January is here and people are setting goals for the year, likely focused on a set of numbers.

Have you made any goals for the new year? Perhaps the number of pounds you would like to lose or how much money you would like to make?

Goal Setting: “Goal setting is the process of identifying something that you want to accomplish and establishing measurable goals and time frames.”

I have been a consistent goal setter my entire adult life. My goals have always been about how many people I could help in any given year. I spent 22 years helping people buy and sell residential real estate. Every one of those years I had a goal of how many people I would help accomplish their goal of buying and/or selling their home. Since becoming a healthy lifestyle advocate and health coach I have been setting annual goals on how many people I would help to have more vibrant health and energy in their life.

January is here and this year I am choosing to create intentions rather than resolutions or goals.

Have you thought about creating intentions for your year?

Intention: “A determination or plan to do a specific thing. An anticipated outcome that is intended or that guides your planned actions.”

Have you ever noticed how it is nearly impossible to focus and have any consistent clarity when you feel overwhelmed? Over the past few months I have struggled with feelings of being overwhelmed since adding a large unanticipated commitment to my plate for the year ahead. My mind has been immersed in confusion about how I am going to accomplish all my goals associated with everything I have committed to. Have you been feeling overwhelmed and confused? Perhaps this will help you too.

My passion and mission is to help people have more vibrant health and energy as they age. With the added commitment, of being newly installed as the President of an organization, I wasn’t sure how I could accomplish my annual goals and still live a life I love. It felt like something had to give and I wasn’t willing to give up anything because I love what I am doing.

Once I let go of setting specific goals and turned my focus to intentions, everything changed. I could feel the difference immediately. Suddenly happiness and calm replaced the confusion and doubt I hadn’t been able to shake. I am excited again about what I have ahead of me, my commitments, my mission and my life.

So what are these intentions I created that suddenly made my life so wonderful again? I created the intention to focus on who I am being, instead of setting goals for what I want to accomplish.

My “Being Intentions” are to Be Present, Be Kind, Be Authentic and Be Grateful.

Our world needs all of the love and kindness we can create. As in everything, it starts with each of us. That means that kindness starts with me and I am taking a stand for being kind. Being present allows me to be fully engaged in whatever it is I am doing and with whoever I am with. It maximizes my enjoyment of life and my ability to serve others. Being authentic is being true to myself, sharing myself with others, trusting my choices and knowing I am doing my best at any given time. Being grateful is something I do daily that keeps me centered and brings me back to the present moment.

I am looking forward to being present, kind, authentic and grateful in the year ahead, while helping others, one person at a time, in whatever way I can. It is going to be an amazing year!

Wishing you a year of being in love with good health!

Love, Dyann


Dyann is a Healthy Edge Coach. Click here to read about her weight-loss journey.

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